Am I Being Gaslighted? Take the Quiz

The Gaslighting Quiz

Gaslighting is a type of emotional abuse that can cause serious harm to your mental health. This quiz can help you determine whether gaslighting is happening in your relationship or friendship.

Who Is This Gaslighting Test For?

This test is for anyone who feels like someone in their life is gaslighting them. If you’re questioning the dynamic in a romantic relationship, friendship, or a relationship with a family member, this test can help you better understand your feelings about how you’re being treated.

People who are gaslighted often question their memory, are afraid of messing up, and feel on edge around the person who gaslights them.

— YOLANDA RENTERIA, LPC

About This Gaslighting Test

This short, free 15-question test measures the signs and feelings associated with gaslighting, such as questioning your own thoughts and perception of reality, being confused, and losing confidence and self-esteem. Each response corresponds to how often signs of gaslighting are present—rarely or never, sometimes, or frequently. 

What to Know About Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a type of emotional abuse where an abuser or bully causes the person on the receiving end to question their feelings, judgment, and reality. It usually happens in romantic or family relationships but also in friendships, at work, or in a medical setting.

The abuse usually takes place over a period of time and makes the person being gaslighted feel as if they can’t trust their judgment, which can even lead to them questioning their sanity. 

Signs of Gaslighting

Gaslighting often happens slowly over time, so if you don’t know the signs, you may not realize it’s happening. Questioning your own thoughts, memory, feelings, and even sanity can cause mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, and thoughts of suicide. 

Here are some gaslighting signs to watch for:

• Doubting your own feelings or the reality of the situation
• Questioning your judgment to the point that you’re afraid to share your opinion
• Feeling nervous and insecure around the person who is gaslighting you
• Believing that everyone thinks you’re crazy, strange, or thinks of you in the way the person who is gaslighting you says they do
• Wondering if everything the gaslighting person says is true and correct, even though you’ve questioned it before
• Feeling upset with yourself over changes to your behavior, like not being as strong as you used to be
• Worrying that you’re too sensitive
• Second-guessing your memory of events
• Feeling like you’re not good enough or can’t meet someone’s expectations
• Apologizing often for being yourself

Abusers who use gaslighting techniques do so with the goal of having power and control over someone else by manipulating their thoughts and feelings. They often have personality disorders such as antisocial personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder.

If someone is gaslighting you, know it’s not your fault, and there are things you can do to protect your mental health. You can put some physical distance between you and the person doing the gaslighting, keep a written record (either with notes or saved conversations) of interactions you’ve had with the person, set boundaries, ask someone you trust for their perspective, or you can end the relationship completely.