Why Saying 'I Don't Feel Good' Is Important for Those Dealing With Depression

Saying "I don't feel good" is something we're used to hearing when we're feeling under the weather, but it can also be something to help others understand that you might be mentally struggling. While it's often easier to talk about our physical symptoms, being able to let others know that we need a mental health break is just as important.

What It Means to Say "I Don't Feel Good"

If you struggle with depression, it can be hard to communicate with others about your feelings, especially on particularly rough days.

That said, especially in office environments, sick and personal days are built-in for just this reason, and you shouldn't feel any guilt about using them when you need to take a mental respite.

In general, saying "I don't feel good" is thought of as something people will say when they have a stomach bug. It's vague, doesn't invite any questions, and there's a mutual understanding among everyone involved that the person said it needs a break.

Using that same phrase when you're dealing with mental strife or depression can be equally as effective. To find out how to prioritize mental health by implementing helpful phrases like this one, we spoke with David T. Susman, PhD, a licensed psychologist and assistant professor of psychology at the University of Kentucky.

Saying "I don't feel good" can mean many things depending on the person and the situation. It might indicate:

• You are experiencing symptoms of depression or anxiety
• You are feeling stressed or overwhelmed
• You need help or support from others
• You feel exhausted and need a break

In some cases, it might mean that you are struggling with emotions that you aren't sure how to identify. Your feelings might be mixed, conflicted, or difficult to label.

How These Phrases Empower People

While the phrase itself seems simple enough, it can pack a powerful punch. When people are struggling with mental health issues, it can be hard or even impossible to explain exactly what you're feeling and why it's debilitating. Some people working through this may not even fully understand why they feel so down themselves.

Because people may not fully understand their feelings, admitting that they need some time away can sometimes cause a spiral of self-doubt. That said, this is when it's more important than ever to voice your concerns with simple phrases like this one.

They are also important ways to hold yourself accountable by admitting that you're not feeling as well as you usually do.

If you say that you aren't feeling well directly, most people will understand that you need some time to rest and recover. Especially while people were working from home in 2020, the National Bureau of Economic Research found that most people left their vacation and sick days on the table.

Maybe you feel like taking a day off will make you fall behind. That said, prioritizing your mental health by giving yourself the rest you need can help you feel less overwhelmed, more rested, and generally more ready to take on your daily tasks.

How to Be Supportive As a Manager

Managers can convey support in a way that is critically important for people dealing with depression. While most managers typically know that they can't ask about particulars in regard to sick days, they can help their employees feel supported.

Susman notes that companies have made major strides in improving their wellness offerings, partially due to increased awareness about mental health and state mandates.

If you're working in an office setting, make sure you're aware of your company's policies regarding mental health and wellness so that you can fully take advantage of them.

How to Be Supportive As a Friend or Family Member

If you have a close friend or family member struggling with depression, it can be hard to know how to best support them. That said, you are in a unique place to provide support and encouragement.

One study looked at the advantages and disadvantages of people struggling with depression reaching out to family and friends. It found that when people share their feelings with loved ones, it can make them feel supported and help them share the burden associated with depression.

However, one of the most important things to point out from this survey is what not to do. Some participants admitted that they were made to feel stigmatized and burdened by the fact that the family member didn't know how to handle the person's concerns.

Other studies have shown that perceived mental health stigma among family and friends is a significant barrier to seeking help for depression.

How to Ask for Help

Once you've let people know that you're not feeling quite up to par by saying "I don't feel good," make sure that you're accepting any help that they're offering. This can include letting people help you at work, letting friends take care of things around the house, and even letting spouses take over some parenting responsibilities.

Use the time to fully relax and recharge. This is also a good time to talk to your therapist, even if it's for a last-minute session.

While these may sound mundane, they can help you gain back your sense of calm and control. Never feel guilty for prioritizing your mental health. Also, don't feel like you have to wait until you're entirely overwhelmed to step down for a day. Admitting that you don't feel well, in this case, is a sign of strength.

When to Talk to a Professional

There are also times when you might want to consider reaching out to your doctor or a mental health professional for further assistance. If you have been experiencing symptoms that are creating distress and interfering with your life, for longer than two weeks, it is important to talk to your doctor. This may indicate a more serious mental health condition such as depression.

Symptoms of depression can include:

• Feelings of sadness or emptiness
• Losing interest in activities you previously enjoyed
• Changes in appetite, weight, and sleep
• Feeling sluggish or restless
• Fatigue and lack of energy
• Difficulty concentrating
• Feelings of worthlessness