ADHD Living With 8 Tips for Living With ADHD as an Adult By Amy Marschall, PsyD Amy Marschall, PsyD Dr. Amy Marschall is an autistic clinical psychologist with ADHD, working with children and adolescents who also identify with these neurotypes among others. She is certified in TF-CBT and telemental health. Learn about our editorial process Updated on February 21, 2024 Learn more." tabindex="0" data-inline-tooltip="true"> Medically reviewed Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. Content is reviewed before publication and upon substantial updates. Learn more. by Claire Eggleston, LMFT-Associate Medically reviewed by Claire Eggleston, LMFT-Associate Claire Eggleston, LMFT-Associate is a neurodivergent therapist and specializes in and centers on the lived experiences of autistic and ADHD young adults, many of whom are also in the queer and disability communities. She prioritizes social justice and intertwines community care into her everyday work with clients. Learn about our Medical Review Board Print Anchiy / Getty Images Trending Videos Close this video player Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental diagnosis that involves issues with attention, executive functioning, hyperactivity, and impulse control. Typically, ADHD symptoms emerge in childhood, but some people go undiagnosed—and untreated—until adulthood. ADHD may not be diagnosed until later in life if the condition is mild, if it wasn't previously recognized by family members or others, or if it was well-managed until adult demands set in. Regardless of the reason, if you are an adult with ADHD whose symptoms are interfering with your functioning, these tips and strategies may help. Untreated ADHD in Adults Figure Out What Works For You Countless books, blogs, and articles have specific and detailed suggestions for living with adult ADHD. Although well-intentioned, these suggestions often require the same executive functioning skills that ADHD interferes with. People with ADHD are often pressured to stick to schedules and systems that work for neurotypical brains. If you have difficulty sticking to a particular system, it is okay to let go of that expectation. Notice what tends to work for you, and lean into that. For example, many people keep their keys on a hook by the door so they don't get lost. But people with ADHD might struggle to remember to return their keys to the hook or follow that organizational system. Instead of choosing the best location for your keys and trying to remember to put them there, notice where you tend to put them naturally. Then, designate that location as the spot where your keys go. Keep Things Visual One sign of ADHD is forgetfulness. If something is out of sight, a person with ADHD may not remember it. Visual cues can keep important things at the forefront. If you need a regular reminder of something, keep it in a basket in a location you pass regularly. Keep a schedule where you can see it. A whiteboard allows you to jot down what you need to remember each day. Determine Your Optimal Level of Stimulation Although ADHD is marked by specific symptoms, each person is unique and has different needs. Some people need background noise to focus on a task—though white or brown noise might be more distracting than music, a television show, or a podcast. Others might require silence to maintain focus. Through trial and error, figure out what works for you. Then, set up your workspace to fit those needs. Remember that your needs might change over time, so be flexible and change your system as needed. Here's How to Optimize Your Space For Better Mental Health Remember That Your Brain Craves Novelty ADHD brains process the neurotransmitter dopamine differently than neurotypical brains. Because of this, people living with adult ADHD will often find it easier to focus on things that are new. Regular changes to the environment or workspace can keep the brain engaged. When you notice that your routine is not holding your attention as it did before, make a small change to keep things interesting and keep your mind engaged. People with ADHD tend to thrive in positions where they do a variety of tasks. This makes teacher, engineer, and small business owner all good jobs for people with ADHD. In these roles, their duties vary so they remain interesting and novel to the ADHD brain. How Embracing the Chaos Helps My ADHD Practice Self-Compassion Many people with ADHD also experience anxiety and depression. They often struggle to live up to neurotypical standards and keep neurotypical schedules. Even when these standards are not essential for functioning, society often punishes or ridicules people for diverging from them. If something works for you and is not harmful, that is okay. Know that you can follow different routines, and that is not a reflection of your value as a human. Practice being kind to yourself and letting go of expectations that do not serve you. Getting down on yourself for having different needs or brain functioning can be a vicious cycle, making you try harder to force yourself to meet these arbitrary expectations and becoming more upset with yourself when you are unable to do so. Break Tasks Down People living with adult ADHD can get overwhelmed by projects or tasks that seem too big or have too many steps. This can cause difficulty with motivation. When starting a task or project, remember that you do not have to finish it all at once. You can do part of a task and then take a break. For example, if washing the dishes feels like too much, just wash one plate, and then stop. Half done is better than not starting, and it is okay to stop even if you have not finished everything. If you find that starting the task gives you the energy to keep going, you can wash more. However, take things one step at a time, and give yourself permission to take breaks as needed or stop and start. Use Alarms and Reminders People with ADHD might experience meta-forgetfulness, or forgetting that they tend to be forgetful. You might find yourself thinking, “I don’t need to write that down; I will remember it.” Instead, tell yourself that it is okay that you will not remember it. Now, you can write it down and set a reminder for yourself. People with ADHD also often lose track of time, so frequent cues and reminders can help you stay on track. You might have to set multiple reminders for different things—since it is easy to dismiss an alarm, and you might forget that you dismissed it. Having several reminders or cues can help you follow through and remember what you are doing. Try Body Doubling “Body doubling” refers to having another person present while you complete a task. People with ADHD tend to do well with another person present while they work on something as this is a physical cue to remind them of the task and acts as an accountability booster. Although research is lacking on the benefits of body doubling, some adults with ADHD have reported that this practice helps them stay on task and improve executive functioning. They've found it helpful when doing activities such as studying, doing dishes, and exercising. 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Proceedings of the 25th International ACM SIGACCESS Conference on Computers and Accessibility. 2023;85:1-4. doi:10.1145/3597638.3614486 By Amy Marschall, PsyD Dr. Amy Marschall is an autistic clinical psychologist with ADHD, working with children and adolescents who also identify with these neurotypes among others. She is certified in TF-CBT and telemental health. See Our Editorial Process Meet Our Review Board Share Feedback Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! What is your feedback? Helpful Report an Error Other Submit