Are You Ready for a Relationship? Take the Quiz and Find Out

Are you tired of being single? Maybe you've been working through your feelings after a bad breakup and want to dip your toes back in the water. Whatever your situation, there are some things to ask yourself before you decide to shack up with someone new.

Take the Relationship Quiz

This fast and free quiz can help you think about how you're feeling and how ready you may or may not be to take things to the next level with someone you're interested in.

Who Is This Relationship Quiz For?

This quiz is for anyone wondering if they’re ready to be in a relationship, whether it’s for the first time or after a hard breakup. It can help you better understand your feelings about long-term relationships. While everyone is different, and only you can decide when and if you’re ready for a relationship, you can use this quiz to think more about your feelings, which may help you make a decision.

This relationship test is based on elements of a healthy relationship. While everyone is different, and only you can decide when and if you’re ready for a relationship, you can use this quiz to think more about your feelings, which may help you make a decision.

Deciding whether you're ready for a relationship is a personal decision that can look different for everyone. Talk with your potential partner about what a loving and committed relationship means to you, explore what it means for them, and proceed with courage, honesty, and mutual care and respect.

— IVY KWONG LMFT

What To Know About Relationships

Relationships are important for human health. Research shows that social connections are needed for good mental and physical health, and people who have healthy relationships are more likely to have better health outcomes and a reduced risk of mortality.

Romantic relationships and partnerships can come in many forms. Shared feelings of love and attraction usually define these relationships. Psychologist Robert Sternberg defines love as having three main components (passion, intimacy, and decision/commitment). 

At first, feelings of passion are strong. It feels great to be with the other person, and you may be intensely drawn to each other. As time goes on, relationships evolve. You may no longer feel intense passion, but you likely have a deeper connection with feelings of trust, respect, and commitment.

No relationship is perfect, and being in a long-term partnership requires work to maintain it. Good communication and the ability to meet each other’s needs is important. 

Some key elements of a healthy relationship include: 

• Trust
• Openness
• Honesty
• Respect
• Good communication 

It’s a good idea to start a new relationship with the people involved being on the same page in terms of what they want out of a relationship and shared values.

Signs You’re Ready for a Relationship

When people question whether or not they’re ready for a relationship, they often mean a long-term partnership where the parties involved are more invested in each other than they would be with casual dating. If you’ve never been in a long-term relationship before or if you’ve had a breakup recently, you might wonder how to tell if you’re ready to enter into something more serious. 

Here are some signs you’re ready to enter a new relationship: 

• You’re tired of dating casually and are ready to enter into something with commitment.
• You’re prepared to communicate openly and honestly and understand that sometimes you’ll have to work to resolve conflict in a way that’s not hurtful.
• You can see yourself building a life and a future with this person.
• You’ve had conversations about wants, needs, core values, and beliefs, and you’re on the same page when it comes to future plans and lifestyle.
• You enjoy spending time with this person and have feelings for them that go beyond sexual attraction.

Ultimately, when you’re ready depends on your feelings and emotional needs.

Signs You’re Not Ready for a Relationship 

There are also signs to consider that indicate you might not be ready to enter a relationship. Here are some indicators you aren’t ready to take things to another level: 

• You’re still getting over an ex and have unresolved feelings or wounds that need to be healed. 
• You aren’t ready to commit to being exclusive and are still enjoying the flexibility that comes with dating casually. 
• You feel anxious or a sense of urgency when seeing people around you in long-term relationships and think you need to reach a milestone because others have or because you’re a certain age.
• You don’t like being around the person for long periods.
• You fight often and don’t resolve the conflicts in a respectful way.